Path to Motivation and Self-Discovery

Prompt

generate posters in can download to print for her room of the stuff that helped from her message; please make sure all the words are copied correctly and have correct grammar : It was very enlightening. The people around the table participating were relatable because they all struggled with “finding motivation” for certain things. It was explained that motivation often fluctuates depending on the person, their environment, their upbringing, the types of people they hang around, etc. It was mentioned that motivation is not always “linear” and “consistent” all the time, every single day. That’s impossible, toxic and unrealistic. No one is a robot. I’m glad I went there tonight. I needed that clear reminder that I need to stop being so hard on myself everyday. My family, my exes and my fiancé, they would always expect me to be perfect, on my best behavior, do everything right, or else. Most times they resort to emotional or physical abuse. There was never room for error in my life, so my mental health has deteriorated severely. I’ve struggled for many years trying to understand myself, my purpose, my needs, etc. It’s always had to be about others and their needs/expectations first. I might have permanent trauma and ptsd from these people and the level of hurt they’ve put me through, but hopefully the depression and the anxiety will slowly get better with time. I don’t know. I was glad that this group explained to us about what a normal human being is, because I never had the luxury of learning more about this subject. I was grateful to hear the participants talk about how we are all flawed and that’s completely normal. That it’s okay to feel tired or to procrastinate at times. That everyone has their good days and their bad days. That it can’t always be sunshine and rainbows all the time. Everything can’t ALWAYS be precise and calculated. Mistakes can happen, unexpected events and inconveniences can happen, life is not a one-way street, not everyone functions the same way or at the same pace. All of these phrases were so comforting to hear. It was eye-opening to realize how badly I’ve been conditioned, brainwashed and lied to my whole life into believing what I had to be / had to do in order to be a “good woman.” I enjoyed the vibe of an “open discussion group.” It felt organic. Everyone could just speak freely whenever they wanted to. You could also stay quiet the whole hour if you felt like it. I appreciate finding this activity because often I had to shut my mouth around my family or my exes to not “piss them off” and to avoid the possibility of an argument that will turn into violence. I’m still learning how to express myself, to find the right words and understanding what healthy communication is. I’ve been walking on eggshells for so long, ever since I was a child. So tonight it felt nice to be in an environment where there were no mean, ill-intentioned, critical or judgmental people. It felt peaceful to have a little safe-space. At one point, every participant went around the table sharing how they usually find “the motivation” to do something (task, goal, chore, etc.) One had mentioned they use their Youtube premium account to play music while doing chores. Another said they keep themselves busy everyday to remain motivated and active. They fill-up their calendar with a bunch of outings/workshops/extracurricular activities, etc. One person said being around people that laugh and smile alot tends to motivate them, because their energy is uplifting and magnetic, it makes you want to be like that because it’s beautiful and inspiring, it makes them want to go out, socialize, to spread kindness, to do volunteer work, etc. When it was my turn, I told the group that my favorite way to motivate myself is “the reward system.” 💀 I usually treat myself to something nice if I earned it. Let’s say I made the effort to be productive all day. When I get home, I will treat myself to some dessert (chocolate, pastries or candy.) Another example would be if I notice the whole week that I did everything on my to-do list (went to all of my booked activities / appointments, did all of my chores / tasks, etc.) then I will reward myself with takeout food on the weekend instead of cooking. They all liked my answer and said that it was a good idea.  My last therapist hurt me BUT I remember she told me one good piece of advice once: that even the small wins or small objectives that I accomplish deserve to be celebrated

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